I went with my gut today and began to use the words “penis” and “testicles” with Will. Paul wasn’t around for most of the day so he has yet to learn of my independent decision. It will take some work to get Paul in line with the phraseology; this is the man who somehow got Will to use the word “bubbie” to ask to nurse.
I’m still curious to what other parents have done or what other people grew up saying… maybe it’s time for an informal playdate survey!?
Gwen | 22-Aug-06 at 5:56 am | Permalink
i plan on using the real names…but then again my mom’s last name is ‘dick’ so we have a hx of being a real names kind of family.
Plastic Mile | 22-Aug-06 at 1:42 pm | Permalink
As a former and recovering four-year-old male child, here’s my perspective. From my experience growing up, I’d say knowing the real deal up front is way better than being coddled. He’ll have to learn what it is sooner or later. Why not start out by giving him the facts, instead of confusing him when you have to explain that his thingy is really not a thingy, but a penis? And what will that do for his trust? When I was a little boy, and I sensed that my mother was holding something back, I went to other sources. Ask my ma how that turned out.
Holly | 22-Aug-06 at 3:54 pm | Permalink
Working with survivors of sexual abuse, my experience is that the real words are important. (But I have to admit, it’s fun to think up alternatives.)
I’m treating penis as if it were as normal as face or toe. We’ll see where it pops up, so to speak.
Amy Lee | 22-Aug-06 at 4:19 pm | Permalink
Holly-I almost spit up my H20 when I read your last sentence…I needed that chuckle! Amy Lee
Violet | 22-Aug-06 at 4:57 pm | Permalink
We used real words. Neither of them has killed anyone yet, so it must be OK!